Turning 40: A letter to the Woman I'm becoming

This year has been a whirlwind. Emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Turning 40 hit harder than I expected.

I don't know why I put so much weight on it. Maybe it's the way society paints 40 as some kind of finish line. Maybe it's the pressure we quietly carry of what we thought life should look like by now. Whatever it was, it knocked me. I spiralled.

Then one day I got a message from a follower so excited for her 40th Birthday..and it made me sit with my thoughts. really sit... and asked: why am I focusing on what I haven't done....instead of everything i've already achieved.

Because truthfully I've built a life filled with love, growth, bold moves, quiet wins, and big lessons. I've raised a family, started businesses, and kept showing up even on hard days. And I have been given the ultimate privilege to grow older, when so many don't get that chance for that I am truly grateful.

That moment of reflection changed something in me. 

As the big day approached, I started making shifts not grand ones but steady ones. I'm moving more. Nourishing better. Taking care of my mental wellness. Up skilling. Goal setting. and just dreaming again....

And alongside all of that I've been finding my style again..because lets be honest your 40's come with change. Not just in your body , but in who you are. your priorities shift. your days look different. Things that once fit literally and emotionally don't always feel like you anymore.

But here's what I've learned: 

You don't need to dress for your age, Dress for your energy, your ambition, your mood. Clothes should fit your fire not dim it.

I've let go of the rules, the trends, the pressure. Now I dress in what makes me feel confident, strong, Feminine, Powerful. Whether that's jeans and a Tee or something with a little edge. I wear what speaks to me. Not what's expected of me. 

Turning 40 isn't the end of something. it's a new level. A deeper version. A woman with clarity, softness, fire and a wardrobe that finally reflects all of it.

Here's to becoming 

Here's to all of us 

Here's to 40